The elephant in the room: Meetups
I know it's scary. But hear me out. Noone will remember you anyway, and even if you just listen to some presentations and don't understand a thing- you can check it out at home. If you are lucky, someone will ask whether you have been to this one earlier. Trust me, after a few of them you will recognize some faces, you will eventually ask about topics you don't quite understand and some time after that- you will no longer be the person who doesn't know anyone. That's the power of good community.
Workshops
Doesn't matter if they are paid or free. You can do this. There will be probably 10 mins of awkwardness, and that's it. People who organize those things are extremely helpful and try to bring everyone together. As a plus, you will gain some knowledge and traction for your coding journey.
Bootcamps, but not the usual ones
We all heard how bootcamps are extremely pricy, offer no value for the money, give no perspectives and foundation. For most places, it's probably true. But there are some online courses and bootcamps that are extremely good in fostering helpful communities
Online communities
This one is great for extremely shy people, but you will have to do this in person some day. So don't shy away from the previous two too long. From platforms for online coding like freecodecamp or odinproject, through Udemy courses comments, Discord servers, platforms to practice (Frontend Mentor has very agile community), Linked In groups, Facebook coding groups, or Skool communities. You definitely want to be a part of these, even if you are just starting. You will bang your head against the wall many times, and that's where those places thrive- instant help, the possibility to pat on a shoulder when you are down, and some encouragement when you are so close to the finish line.